Penthouse Magazine just ran a piece on "Geek Love," where they describe how Comic-Con has become a new hot spot for hookups. I'm always slightly skeptical whenever the mainstream press decides to sensationalize some aspect of comics; so as a three-year veteran of the con, I thought I'd do a quick fact check on the article and whether its claims of sexy times in San Diego are true or false.Penthouse says: "I was a little surprised when my friendly neighborhood comic-book-store clerk told me she was looking forward to this year's New York Comic Con because 'conventions are all about the sex.'"
CA says: FALSE. Comic conventions -- in New York or San Diego or anywhere else -- are never "all about the sex." Sex happens -- SOMETIMES -- and it may happen more often than an normal weekend for SOME con-goers, but that's because it's an enormous show that packs more than 100,000 people with similar interests into a convention center where they spend four days getting incredibly amped up and drinking a lot. The show is not about the fact that this SOMETIMES happens -- it's about comics... and TV shows, movies, and video games. If anything, hookups are a bonus, like the t-shirts and posters that the Marvel booth likes to toss into crowds of screaming fans.
Penthouse says: "It's all these people you see only a couple of times a year at hotels, you're all into the same things, people are dressed up, you've been flirting online for months... It's pretty hot."
CA says: TRUE. This is a much more realistic way to describe the situation -- a lot of shared, uh, passions and close proximity, coupled with the fling factor of hooking up with people you don't have to see regularly. The "dressed up" cosplay influence is pretty small, though, since contrary to what the mainstream press seems to think, the vast majority of people don't dress up.
Penthouse says: "The big cons-SDCC, NYCC, and Alternative Press Expo-all have VIP parties with open bars, which can lubricate the social interaction for sure. You're not going to go home with Jessica Alba in her f--k-tastic Fantastic Four garb, but as Vic Holtreman of ScreenRant.com notes, 'There's a lot of hitting on people and flirting; there's a feeling of community.' And any celebs in tow are well aware that a review from a popular fan site can make or break a sci-fi movie, so they're at their most approachable."
CA says: FALSE. This is a total lie. Those VIP parties are limited to just what they say they are -- VIPs -- and unless you know that this means you, it probably doesn't. The closest you're going to get to actual celebrities at Comic-Con are the mega-panels that get projected on giant screens in halls packed with thousands of other fans. And unless you are writing for a media outlet so famous that people's moms know about you, you are not getting any preferential treatment from celebs. Maybe not even then.
Penthouse says: "There are a lot of hotel parties in people's rooms. You just bring some booze; everyone is always really friendly," says Eva, a 27-year-old who works in publishing. "My friends and I want to do things on the cheap, so we often cram a bunch of people-six or more-into a room, and sometimes we take shifts sleeping."
CA says: TRUE. Room parties are a big part of socializing at Comic-Con if you don't have access to the swank industry parties, and even if you do, the afterparties often break off to hotel rooms. But remember, room parties are only as cool and fun and sexy as the people inside them, so choose your destination -- and your guests -- wisely.
Penthouse says: "It used to be pretty male-dominated," says Glanzer. "But in the past ten years that's really changed. Things like Japanese anime have really brought a lot more women and girls to the show. Last year attendees were about 40 percent female."
CA says: TRUE! There are lots of ladies at Comic-Con these days, which improves the odds a great deal for the guys. It is also why articles like the "Girls' Guide to Comic-Con" make want to punch holes in the wall.
Penthouse says: "It also provides readymade opening lines. "One guy just asked for my number. He said, 'I don't see Green Arrow [Canary's on-again/off-again love interest] around, so I figured you're free.' Hey, it's better than, 'What's your sign?'"
CA says: FALSE. Guys, do not be fooled by this. Like most pickup lines -- and certainly all cheesy ones -- stuff like this is only going to get you girls who already think you're hot. If you don't know whether you can pull it off, you're always better off with the tried-and-true "Hello, my name is _____." And no, you cannot say the name of a superhero.
Penthouse says: "Jennifer, a software company project manager, is rocking extremely revealing Wonder Woman gear complete with the kind of red rubber boots that are found only at the most fetishy sex shops. And yet she insists guys aren't checking out her barely there bustier. 'I really just do it for the kids,' she says."
CA says: FALSE. Dear Jennifer, exactly how hot does it get when your PANTS ARE ON FIRE?
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Tuesday 23 June
By David Gallaher
For a brief second, when I read the headline, I though CA was going to tell me that MY con hook-up was a big fat lie. And then I would have been sad.
That aside, from my own personal experience, con hook-ups are FAR more common at gaming conventions, with Dragon Con being the most notorious culprit.
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Tuesday 23 June
By Laura Hudson
I'm retconning your ENTIRE RELATIONSHIP, David!
You have made me curious about gaming cons, though, and why hookups might be more prevalent there.
Tuesday 23 June
By Eden
Good debunking of a somewhat silly piece. I've been in a long-term relationship since I've started going to such things so I really can't speak of hook-up opportunities from person experience.
I have, however, ended up meeting a lot of great people and formed some good friendships from people I've met at cons. So close enough, I guess. But those have always been at the smaller ones. I can't imagine trying to make friends (or hooking up) at some place as crowded or as overwhelming as NYCC or SDCC.
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Tuesday 23 June
By Laura Hudson
I, too, have met far more friends at cons than anything else -- and also you're 100% right that it's easier at smaller cons. So much of SDCC is simply about trying to survive it and meet up with the people you already know that it doesn't leave much time or energy for meeting new people.
Tuesday 23 June
By Jill aka The Nerdy Bird
"Dear Jennifer, exactly how hot does it get when your PANTS ARE ON FIRE?"
Haha! Hit the nail on the head with that one. I for one am waiting patiently for my very own David Gallaher success story.
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Tuesday 23 June
By David Gallaher
Honestly? I think the difference between a gaming convention hook-ups and a comic convention hook-ups is simple. Gaming is a far more social activity than reading comics, which is a far more solitary experience. [Wasn't it Warren Ellis who coined the phrase 'Come In Alone' in regards to the comics experience?]
When you game you take on another role, you get into character, and are free to be someone different, someone new, someone exciting. When you game, for that brief moment, you are no longer 'Laura Hudson, Lead Blogger for Comics Alliance' you are 'Majestra, Queen of Assassins'. I think that it creates a level of confidence that facilitates sexual desire, tension, and attraction.
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Tuesday 23 June
By Alexa
I just thought it was funny how they kept referring to these long-term relationships as "hook-ups". Maybe it's just me, but I always thought of hook-ups as one night stands and casual sex. A relationship may grow out of a one night's stand or casual sex, but to me, that ret-cons their status as hook-ups.
I may be overthinking this.
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Wednesday 24 June
By Laura Hudson
Ha! I like the idea of retconning hookups. Who hasn't wanted to do that at one point or another? I've always understood hookups as no strings attached incidents that have the potential to grow into more. I have reflected to boyfriends before about "the first time we hooked up" so I don't think I personally retcon hookups, but that doesn't mean other people don't.
NPR has an interesting -- but overly morally panicked -- post about the fluidity of "hookup culture" here: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=105008712
Tuesday 23 June
By Ed
The only cons that were significantly "about" sex were SF cons, and generally the ones that were predominantly concerned with the written stuff, as opposed to media-oriented cons.
Also, this was many years back; the heyday of con hookups (and even orgies, according to some stories) was easily two to three decades ago, before it sunk in about STD's being potentially deadly and not just a matter of a penicillin shot, and also before a lot of people grew older, married, and had kids.
I think this might be were the hack who wrote this up got this idea, and became confused; comic cons, and huge cons run by businesses like Wizard or Creation, are not so amenable to such possibilities, as opposed to amateur fan-run cons in smaller hotels where a lot of the attendees are already somewhat acquainted.
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Wednesday 24 June
By Kiel Phegley
This one time, a well known superhero creator told Brian Warmoth he'd "get laid like a puppy" at San Diego. We're still not sure what that means exactly or if it was, as I suspect, some kind of a threat.
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